Attachment Style Test
12 questions to discover how you experience closeness and distance in relationships — secure, anxious, avoidant or mixed attachment — with percentages and a full profile, instantly.
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What are attachment styles?
Attachment theory — started by John Bowlby and brought into adult relationships by researchers like Hazan, Shaver and Fraley — describes how we learn to experience closeness: through early caregiving, each of us develops strategies to feel safe in relationships. In adulthood, those strategies organize along two dimensions — attachment anxiety (how much you fear losing the bond) and intimacy avoidance (how uncomfortable closeness feels) — which combine into four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant and mixed.
Knowing your style isn't about getting a label: it's about gaining vocabulary for reactions that used to feel inexplicable — the restlessness when a reply takes too long, the urge to pull away when someone gets too close — and, above all, being able to talk about them. Styles change: secure relationships and self-awareness build what research calls earned security.
Frequently asked questions
Is my attachment style permanent?
No. These are learned patterns — and what was learned can be relearned. Secure relationships, self-awareness and, when it makes sense, therapy change these patterns.
What's the difference between anxious and avoidant?
Anxious fears abandonment and seeks reassurance; avoidant is uncomfortable with closeness and avoids depending on anyone. Opposite strategies for the same need: safety.
Is this a diagnosis?
No — it's educational, inspired by the scientific tradition of adult attachment instruments (ECR). It doesn't replace a professional evaluation.
An educational tool by Associação Influência Positiva (a Brazilian nonprofit), with items inspired by the adult attachment research tradition (Brennan, Clark & Shaver, 1998; Fraley and colleagues — the ECR/ECR-R instruments, free for non-commercial use). Your answers are processed in your browser only and never sent to our servers. This tool does not replace evaluation, diagnosis or treatment by health professionals. If things feel too heavy right now: in the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline); in the UK & ROI, call Samaritans free on 116 123.