Attachment Style Test
12 questions to discover how you experience closeness and distance in relationships — secure, anxious, avoidant or mixed attachment — with percentages and a full profile, instantly.
What are attachment styles?
Attachment theory — started by John Bowlby and brought into adult relationships by researchers like Hazan, Shaver and Fraley — describes how we learn to experience closeness: through early caregiving, each of us develops strategies to feel safe in relationships. In adulthood, those strategies organize along two dimensions — attachment anxiety (how much you fear losing the bond) and intimacy avoidance (how uncomfortable closeness feels) — which combine into four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant and mixed.
Knowing your style isn't about getting a label: it's about gaining vocabulary for reactions that used to feel inexplicable — the restlessness when a reply takes too long, the urge to pull away when someone gets too close — and, above all, being able to talk about them. Styles change: secure relationships and self-awareness build what research calls earned security.
Frequently asked questions
Is my attachment style permanent?
No. These are learned patterns — and what was learned can be relearned. Secure relationships, self-awareness and, when it makes sense, therapy change these patterns.
What's the difference between anxious and avoidant?
Anxious fears abandonment and seeks reassurance; avoidant is uncomfortable with closeness and avoids depending on anyone. Opposite strategies for the same need: safety.
Is this a diagnosis?
No — it's educational, inspired by the scientific tradition of adult attachment instruments (ECR). It doesn't replace a professional evaluation.
An educational tool by Associação Influência Positiva (a Brazilian nonprofit), with items inspired by the adult attachment research tradition (Brennan, Clark & Shaver, 1998; Fraley and colleagues — the ECR/ECR-R instruments, free for non-commercial use). Your individual answers are processed in your browser and never sent to our servers. If you ask for the guide, we store your email and your result label — never your answers. This tool does not replace evaluation, diagnosis or treatment by health professionals. If things feel too heavy right now: in the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline); in the UK & ROI, call Samaritans free on 116 123.